I was thinking today what a bad parent
I am.Its very depressing.I dont think it would be so bad if all my kids were grown because then I could say well I really messed up.But only one is older & I keep wondering were I went wrong.
He's 21 lives at home.He left school last year.It was a special school for kids ith disabilities & he was lucky to get in.I was so upset he went & moved in with his dad.Now the only thing negative I have ever said about his dad is never & I mean NEVER sign a contract of any sort with him.I told him he could have his car when they showed me proof of insurance.We gave him a car when he was 16, a saturn.He says no he will get his own car him & his dad.So he signs a contract, finances everything even tax, tag & title for 6 yes --6 years.Its like a 2004 truck.His payments are 320.00 a month his insurance is 175.00 a month.
So of course he comes back home to live with this huge truck payment.
He went to work at kmart.He thought if he did a good job they would move him to full time.After he gets there he figures out no one gets full time.They keep scheduling him for 3 hours a day,which is not worth the gas.Somedays he gets 8 it varies.So he quits no 2 week notice no call just doesnt show up.
So he goes & gets a job at the local carwash.They work him everyday but Sundays.But if it gets slow they will send him home & when it rains they close.
I am so disappointed .What good did all the lessons do,the moral lessons.The work ethic? I taught him to be on time, not to badmouth an employer,to give a notice.An if he didnt hear are get any of those lessons how do I know these kids are getting any of them I had alot more time with the firat.
Bad parent
July 14th, 2006 at 06:07 am
July 14th, 2006 at 06:28 am 1152854907
My own son is still in the never ready category, I'm sorry to say. And, he's 24. All I can do is live my life the best I can & hope he gets a glimmer some day! I just hope I live long enough to see him get his act together!
July 14th, 2006 at 01:39 pm 1152880779
There are no guarantees..I wish there were! but there arn't.
http://princessperky.savingadvice.com/2006/06/19/an-end-to-a-bad-week_10248/
a post I wrote when complaining about the lack of guarantee if your interested.
July 14th, 2006 at 01:51 pm 1152881468
Mine are all grown and on their own now. I look at some of their choices and think "that isn't what we taught you!", but they are finding their own way in the world and lots of times we try to teach our children things so they won't have to find out the hard way, but in the end the only way they really learn it IS the hard way. And to be truthful, it was that way for their father and me also, in our day.
Keep your chin up, you're a good parent!
July 14th, 2006 at 02:46 pm 1152884776
That's the thing about parenting. We only teach them and then they make their choices. Sometimes they are not what we would choose. At that point it is OUR choice to support them in what makes them happy and help them in their journey OR NOT.
Like Jane says, sometimes they have to make their own mistakes and that IS the hardest thing to let them do.
July 14th, 2006 at 06:16 pm 1152897361
Good luck and hugs to you!
July 15th, 2006 at 05:42 am 1152938541